Unforgiveness is a Consuming Fire

20160220_161414_resizedFor­give­ness is a big sub­ject that I won’t even begin to cov­er com­plete­ly. This is by no means a com­pre­hen­sive teach­ing on this top­ic just some­thing to make you think. I want to dis­cuss a few key ele­ments that are on my mind.

Many of us have events or peo­ple that have hurt and haunt us. It is what we each do with those things that will deter­mine so much about our lives. Often, we hold onto those offens­es think­ing we can some­how make the oth­er per­son pay for what they did. On the con­trary, you will nev­er make them pay in your own pow­er.

What you will do is con­demn and tor­ment your­self.

Matthew 6:14, 15 says,

For if you for­give men for their trans­gres­sions, your heav­en­ly Father will also for­give you. But if you do not for­give men, then your Father will not for­give your trans­gres­sions.

To be right with God you must for­give those that hurt you. There is not much more need­ed to con­demn and tor­ment than unfor­give­ness. It is a rot inside our bod­ies. Those unre­solved issues will go some­where. Where they go will be with­in our phys­i­cal bod­ies as well as tor­ment our minds and emo­tions. Many are sick and dying from unfor­give­ness yet they stub­born­ly cling to the past.

fireUnfor­give­ness is like a fire. It burns and con­sumes every­thing in it’s path. With fire comes smoke. Just as in a house fire, the flames are con­tained with­in the struc­ture. The black smoke fills the open space and stains every­thing it touch­es. Even if the fire­fight­er comes and puts out the fire, every­thing with­in will be black. So it is with unfor­give­ness inside of our bod­ies. There is a black­ness that oozes from the fire that burns with­in that will stain and mar your phys­i­cal body. The result is phys­i­cal and often, men­tal and emo­tion­al, ill­ness.

You may be think­ing that you have noth­ing to for­give. I will ask you to think about the fol­low­ing points.

  1. Do you often rehash past events that should have been laid to rest a long time ago? Con­tin­u­al­ly reliv­ing past events will result in sick­ness in the mind and body. It is sim­ply a mat­ter of time before those unre­solved issues will affect your phys­i­cal body and your men­tal and emo­tion­al state.
  2. Can you state aloud that you chose to for­give that per­son for that event? For­give­ness is a choice we all must chose to make. No one can force you to for­give. If you have any kind of emo­tion­al rise when doing this, you still have an issue that needs to be dealt with. Do it again, and again, and again until there is no longer an emo­tion­al respon­se.
  3. Can you ask God to for­give them? Vengeance is God’s to dish out as He sees fit. We must be will­ing to let go and let God. The same applies here. If you have an emo­tion­al respon­se you need to work on this.
  4. Can you speak with your mouth a bless­ing over the per­son that hurt you? I know this runs con­trary to revenge and even pop­u­lar advice. In Luke 6:28 it says, “Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mis­treat you.” We are called to bless those that have hurt or offend­ed us. If you are unable to bless, than you have an unre­solved issue.

You can­not live in the present if you are busy liv­ing in the past. I like to com­pare this con­cept to dri­ving a car. If you are dri­ving down the free­way and look in the rear view mir­ror for too long you will even­tu­al­ly crash. You can­not move for­ward with your eyes look­ing back.

I chal­lenge you to eval­u­ate your­self and if you find unfor­give­ness, chose to for­give and walk in free­dom before the fire com­plete­ly con­sumes you.

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