Pay It Forward

20160510_111203_resizedI was lis­ten­ing to some 80’s music with my hus­band and I was amazed at how pow­er­ful music is. It can trans­port you back in time to dif­fer­ent points in your life. I found myself think­ing about a time in my life when I felt so lost and alone and a girl befriend­ed me on the bus. We had grown up togeth­er, but didn’t real­ly know each oth­er. She was a pass­ing face in the crowd.   It wasn’t until I start­ed 10th grade that we real­ly got to know each oth­er. We became best friends and in time, I spent most of my time at her house. So much so, that her par­ents brought in a cot for me to sleep on.

My home life was very trau­mat­ic and her home was a place of safe­ty and secu­ri­ty. Her par­ents treat­ed me like I was part of the fam­i­ly.  I was expect­ed to pull my own weight just like every­one else. I am not sure I ever real­ly thanked them for what they did for me.

My friend was like a sis­ter to me. Sure we had our ups and downs but we always end­ed up back togeth­er, Best friends for life.

It is a con­nec­tion I have been very blessed to say I have had with only three wom­en in my life. I count myself very blessed to say that I have 3 best friends. How amaz­ing is that? I miss each one of them very dear­ly.

I then start­ed look­ing at my life now. I am a mature moth­er and wife now. My chil­dren are grow­ing and they have friends. I sat and asked myself, “Am I being that spe­cial per­son for one that is hurt­ing?”

I am now in the posi­tion of the par­ent and am I doing my part? Am I a safe place for a hurt­ing young per­son? How about you? Peo­ple are hurt­ing all around us. Are we look­ing for peo­ple that we can pay it for­ward with? Are we being that help­ing hand to those that need it?

I am not sure I would be where I am today if it were not for those that reached out and helped me. Am I being that per­son for one that is hurt­ing and lost? Am I being a help­ing hand to those that need it? Are you?

If we are not watch­ing for oppor­tu­ni­ties to pay it for­ward, we will miss it. Pay it for­ward and tell me about it.  I’d love to hear your sto­ries!


  • annnette

    Reply Reply May 12, 2016

    I have many peo­ple in my life that have tak­en me under their wings. Most­ly old­er peo­ple than me who have shown love and care for me. It is very spe­cial to have peo­ple that care and love you for who you are. And yes my home has been a haven for many.
    Love ya sis!

    • Angela Smuin

      Reply Reply May 22, 2016

      I’m so glad we both had many that invest­ed in our lives! It is won­der­ful to be able to invest in oth­ers!
      Love you too!

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